---"Inclusion or Exclusion", Sri Lanka, 2015.3 | 《排斥或包容》摄于斯里兰卡

Our Pressures | 我们的压力

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What is Pecha Kucha?

Pecha Kucha, “the sound of conversation” or “chit-chat” in Japanese, is a visual presentation style with automatically changing slides for 20 seconds each. It started in Tokyo in 2003, designed by architects, Astrid Klein and Mark Dytham. In a similar way to a Haiku poem, Pecha Kucha forces the creator to creatively arrange their message within a strict form. And such creativity often produces amazing results. —(Bing)

 

什么是Pecha Kucha

Pecha Kucha 即“喋喋不休”或“闲聊”。2003年始创于日本东京,由建筑师Astrid Klein 和 Mark Dytham联合设计。它是一种快节奏的视觉呈现方式,演讲者给观众展示自动播放的幻灯片,每幅图仅有20秒的解说时间。类似俳句,Pecha Kucha迫使演讲者在严格把控的形式上创造性地去组织传递信息。这种创造力通常会产生惊人的结果。

 

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Why are we talking about something that has nothing to do with our pressures? Because pressure is something tense, but presenting it in Pecha Kucha style was fun. I did it in Shanghai Leadership Toastmasters Club on August 28th, 2019.
为什么我们要谈论这个Pecha Kucha与压力无关的东西?因为压力让人精神紧绷,但用Pecha Kucha的方式来解说压力就感觉有趣多了。2019年8月28日,我在上海头马演讲舞台上体验过。
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This month (August) my family told me that chasing my writing dream is a shame and a sin. My mother cried when my father said working for art is washing the toilet. Their voices still echo in my ears, and I began to sink into the black sea of life pressure, work pressure and peer pressure.

这个月(八月份),我家人告诉我追逐写作梦想是一种耻辱和罪孽。当我父亲说创作艺术就是洗厕所时,我母亲哭了。他们的声音还在我耳边回荡,我开始沉入生活压力、工作压力和同辈压力的一片黑暗海洋。

 

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Living alone in the magic city of Shanghai, with a fast-paced lifestyle, daily crowds and monthly bills, it is unavoidable to face some difficult problems. Don’t you agree? For me, I often feel time is a knife pointing at my back, and I have to struggle to survive.

独自生活在上海大魔都,每天面对超快节奏的生活方式、拥挤的人潮和每月的账单,是不是让人喘不过气来?时间就像一把刀,老顶着我的背,我必须挣扎才能生存。

 

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Almost every day during my last family trip, my parents, uncles and aunts would repeat the same thing. “You will end up begging on the street if you keep writing.” Can you imagine the horror in their eyes? 

上次与家人度假期间,几乎每天,我的家人亲戚都会重复同样的事情。”如果你继续写下去,你就会落败街头乞讨。” 能想象他们眼中的恐惧吗?

 

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“Everyone is getting married. Why not you?” my family asked a million times. I kept silent. They have social pressure from the folks around them. They invited several each day for lunch or dinner, and they talked about me. The more they talked, the more face my family lost, and the more peer pressure they had.

“所有人都结婚了,为什么你还没有?” 我家人问了千万遍。我沉默不语。他们要面对周围的人给他们带来的社会压力。他们每天都邀请不同的人来家里做客吃饭,而我成了他们餐桌上必聊的那道菜。他们聊的越多,我家人感觉越丢脸,所面临的同辈压力也越大。

 

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A Peer Group is a social group whose members have interests, social positions, and age in common. Peer Pressure is the influence exerted by a peer group, encouraging individuals to change their attitudes, values, or behavior in order to conform to group norms. —(Bing)

同龄群体是一个有着共同年龄、兴趣和身份的社会群体。同辈压力是指同龄群体给个体施加的影响,鼓励个人改变自己的行为、态度或价值观,以符合团体规范。

 

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Well, peer pressure might influence you in a number of ways, including fashion choices, alcohol and drug use, decisions to have a boyfriend or girlfriend, choice of who your friends can be, and your daily life. Which one has affected you?

其实,同辈压力可能会影响你的方方面面,包括时尚选择、酗酒、吸毒、找对象、交朋友,以及你的日常生活。哪一个影响你最深?

 

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Now we know people who give in to peer pressure often become psychologically weak. How to resist then? Two ways: build a positive self-image and learn to say “NO”. Don’t follow your friends blindly. Be inspired and inspire others.
 

既然我们已经知道,屈服于同辈压力的人往往在心理上变得软弱。那怎么抵抗呢?有两种方法:树立积极的自我形象,学会说“不”。不要盲目地跟随你的朋友。激发自己,激励他人。

 

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I live for writing. I enjoy traveling. I like socializing and fashion. I like being independent and curious. I like pleasing myself. I might even like the pain of giving birth to a baby. But I never like following others or copying their lives. I wonder if the more you fight, the more peer pressure you would face?

我喜欢写作、旅行、社交、时尚和独立。我喜欢新鲜事物。我喜欢取悦自己。我甚至可能喜欢生孩子的痛。但我从来不喜欢跟随别人或照搬他们的生活。我纳闷是不是人越抵抗挣扎,面临的同辈压力就越大?

 

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With peer pressure or social pressure, how to balance life and work? Do you plan ahead? Do you keep a journal to reduce your stress? Do you have the courage to chase your dream job and your dream life? Or are you sacrificing your time for something you don’t really want?

面对同辈压力和社会压力,如何平衡工作与生活?你有提前计划吗?你有写日记来减压吗?你有勇气追求你的理想工作和你的理想生活吗?还是在为那些你完全不想要的牺牲你宝贵的时间?

 

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If you are stressed, what would you normally do? Would you first take care of yourself? Would you be adaptable and flexible, like bamboo – bending but not breaking? Now circumstances tell me to become a teacher again, but this only makes me work harder on my dreams.

如果有压力,你通常会做什么?你会先照顾好自己吗?你会像竹子一样灵活适应吗?现在处境告诉我不得不回归教育,但这只会让我更加努力地去追求梦想。

 

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Pressure is a force. If we can handle our pressures properly, we can turn them into a good force. As Yuda said, “May the force be with you!” And be yourself! Don’t change but embrace all the pressures. So the right people will like the real you.

压力是一种外在驱使的力量。如果我们能妥善面对我们的压力,我们就能把压力变成一股好的力量。就像Yuda说的,“愿你的力量与你同在!” 做你自己!不要改变!拥抱所有的压力,对的人会喜欢那个真正的你。

 

---"Inclusion or Exclusion", Sri Lanka, 2015.3 | 《排斥或包容》摄于斯里兰卡

—“Inclusion or Exclusion”, Sri Lanka, 2015.3 | 《排斥或包容》摄于斯里兰卡

 

Note: To build a mutual Literature & Art community, Heather has now opened her personal channel (WeChat ID: Heather69) to her friends, who are following HeathersChamber. No cheaters!

备注由于时间和精力有限,为了建立一个互敬互惠的文学艺术圈子,阿太特向已关注此公众号的朋友们分享她的个人微信号:Heather69 。骗子勿扰!

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About Heather Cai:

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Heather is the daughter of a subsistence rice farmer from Fujian Province, China. She tells stories from her experience as one of the poorest. She writes her dream to share with the world, a very personal place. She has now written two English literary novels and is looking to being published in the UK. Her passion is a splendid cocktail or milkshake of word, image, music and art. She likes collecting books, DVDs, papers, stones, shells and leaves. She desires for all forms of natural beauty. She is currently teaching kids chess in Shanghai.

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My First UK Customer

Photo taken in Yunnan.

When the heaven’s cock got a real hard erection, the world is simply black and white.

Foreword: 

After I decided to write my dream, I quit this full-time job in 2013. Honestly I’m not any material to make any money. The more I work on money, the more I despise it. It’s a stroke of luck that I finally left a shitty place for this job as a sales girl. Surely this job made me know more people like our Portuguese Manager and some Chinese hard-working  girls. Yet it saddened me in many ways, like I trusted the company and believed what I was told in the interview. One day the accountant made a big mistake on my monthly salary, and I found that the company had paid my basic salary as rmb2800, which was supposed to be rmb3000, for half a year. I studied and started everything from ZERO, alone. Through the whole time I had to search in despair and make cold phone calls worldwide with hope for a customer without having any account of my own in Alibaba or Globalsource. So on that day in March 2013, one of the old sales girls, Lisa, let me use her account on Alibaba and this fun dark humor happened, purely and shockingly.

Heather Cai (17:01:30):
hello Do you have any inquiry of USB & Memory cards? power banks?
Marilou Baylis (17:02:11):
FUCK OFF YELLOW PEOPLE
Heather Cai (17:03:17):
Sorry to disturb such impolite WHATEVER
Marilou Baylis (17:03:33):
piss off
Heather Cai (17:03:45):
FUCK OFF –back to you
Marilou Baylis (17:04:10):
SUCK MY BIG COCK 🙂
Heather Cai (17:04:49):
I can suck WHATEVER kinda cock, not your type.
BTW: What’s the color of your mysterious COCK ?
Marilou Baylis (17:05:44):
CAN I CUM UP YOU BABY ? BIG WHITE COCK FOR YOU HONEY
Heather Cai (17:06:44):
EXCUSE ME,BIG WHITE COCK
Marilou Baylis (17:07:46):
can i meet you ?
Heather Cai (17:09:33):
fuck off white cock I am YELLOW as you already FUCKED OFF
Marilou Baylis (17:09:59):
have you picture ?
can i cum in your pussy ?
Heather Cai (17:11:13):
Go fuck off yourself
Marilou Baylis (17:11:35):
i would like to fuck you ?
Heather Cai (17:11:59):
If so, i prefer to fuck myself with my middle finger
Marilou Baylis (17:12:27):
you make me hot hot hot
Heather Cai (17:13:11):
Then F*CK yourself in front of a mirror on ur face
Marilou Baylis (17:13:45):
send me a picture please of you ?
i would like you to be my girl friend ?
Heather Cai (17:14:19):
NO WAY
Marilou Baylis (17:15:03):
you make me very sad 😦
Heather Cai (17:15:41):
Make yourself YELLOW, Then i will fuck u badly
my bfs are queueing in The Great Wall
Marilou Baylis (17:16:56):
you must be good in bed ?
Heather Cai (17:17:12):
Silent
Marilou Baylis (17:17:36):
ok that fine with me baby
send me picture of you ? i think you very pretty and sexy 🙂
Heather Cai (17:18:44):
Speechless
Marilou Baylis (17:19:56):
how old are you ?
Heather Cai (17:20:09):
Secret
Marilou Baylis (17:21:39):
are you getting hot ?
Heather Cai (17:22:08):
Unknowable
Marilou Baylis (17:24:46):
miss you
Marilou Baylis (17:26:17):
bye lisa
Heather Cai (17:26:52):
I am not Lisa
Marilou Baylis (17:27:22):
whats your real name ?
Heather Cai (17:27:34):
Can u make ur eyes wide open on HEATHER CAI
Marilou Baylis (17:28:01):
dont no
Marilou Baylis (17:29:41):
is that your name heather cai ?
Heather Cai (17:29:50):
YES
Marilou Baylis (17:30:31):
thats good
my name is shane
Heather Cai (17:30:58):
Shane or shame shame?
Marilou Baylis (17:31:12):
shane
Heather Cai (17:31:39):
Oh, yeah. I just forgot a movie also SHANE not Shame
while i liked it to be Shame
Marilou Baylis (17:32:05):
thats the one the cowboy film
Heather Cai (17:32:14):
Yup
Marilou Baylis (17:33:13):
have you picture of you ? could you send me ?
Heather Cai (17:34:00):
Come to meet me in Futian district, Shenzhen city, China
I will give u a real pic of ME-Heather Cai
Marilou Baylis (17:34:32):
its a long way
Heather Cai (17:34:51):
and a long way to NOWHERE
So forget it
Marilou Baylis (17:35:22):
please send pic ?
Heather Cai (17:35:59):
Paint your BIG COCK in YELLOW, i may think about it
Marilou Baylis (17:36:45):
ok
Marilou Baylis (17:38:26):
bye heather cai
Heather Cai (17:41:48):
bye white cock
Marilou Baylis (17:42:47):
mmmmmmuuuaaahh
Afterword:
To me, sadly this is more cultural than sexual. A German friend who brought me a really nice bottle of German Icy wine and different boxes of chocolates from Germany and with whom I had “luxury” food and drinks and talked a big deal in real and online. Yet, during our last dinner in March 2013, first his face turned purple and his eyes deadly white, then after dinner he at once deleted me from his Wechat, a while later he deleted me from his Skype, after I showed him that, which I thought he would understand me better.